Sunday musings – gay marriage
So what I want to talk to you about today is still wedding related but not something as simple as with dresses, venues or photography. I want to address a debate that has been going on in the wedding world and has been in the headlines a lot over the past few years.
photo by Getty Images via http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/religion/9129750/Poll-suggests-70pc-oppose-gay-marriage.html
Gay marriage, not just civil partnerships (which are completely legal here but don’t have the standing as weddings, or thats what my research has led me to believe) have been under debate recently.
On one side there is the church who say that a marriage is between a man and women for the purpose of making children and on the other people who say if two people love each other they should be together forever in a way suited to them.
My own view on this is that if two people love each other and both are religious in whatever ways suits them (they don’t have to be hard set christian just some belief in God or a God type form works for me) then I have no problem with them getting married in the traditional sense.
I know a lot of people, especially those that are not of my generation (I am only 23) this seems rather insane, I know a lot of my friends parents disagree with my views and thats ok because its their opinion and although I don’t like it I am certainly never going to stop anyone having their opinion on a matter.
Photograph: Justin Sullivan/Getty Images via http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/richard-adams-blog/2010/aug/04/proposition-8-gay-marriage-california
The one thing I think people tend to forget with something of this nature is that although marriage is a sacred act the amount of people who are having church weddings because they feel thats what they should do as opposed to what they believe in or what they want. With this in mind if there are people (who may or may not admit it until long after) who are choosing to get married in this way why should we not allow people to get married in the eyes of their God, being gay or bi-sexual or whatever-orientation I don’t know about out there should have nothing to do with it.
They say that bible says that you are not allowed to be gay. This is true, it does say this however it also says you shouldn’t have sex without a condom, catholics should eat fish on fridays and that you shouldn’t have tattoos. Suddenly perspectives change a little when you put things like this in the spot light.
My opinion is that even if the bible says things like this they are moral guidelines written 2,000 years ago, things change every year, every decade and every century so how much have things changed in 2,000 years? Also how many christians have apparently broken rules by simply having protective sex as they don’t want a lot of children but for whatever reason are not on the pill (I am also pretty sure the Pope was saying any form on contraception but we will go with this for now).
With this in mind I would like to point out how many things have changed over the years, we no longer have capital punishment for one as it is seen as against human rights and old fashioned, we have changed our methods of warfare hundreds of times, we no longer hunt for sport, we take antibiotics, we have painkillers instead of having a drilling a hole in our heads if we have a headache and not to mention clothing fashions change every few months!
So, everything changes, yes the bible is a good basic moral guide but people have to realise that opinions and situations change with each passing year so to condom something important to someone simply because it doesn’t fit in with a box I don’t feel is fair.
As I said this is only my opinion, I have a lot of gay friends and some of those are christian. It simply makes me sad that they can’t get married in a way that they feel is right for them, which is in the eyes of God. After all does God not see us all as equal and understand everything in our hearts? If he does then surely he understands that love is love no matter where it comes from, especially if a gay couple want to adopt (or any other means available) children isn’t that getting married in the eyes of God for love with the idea to start a family?
One last thought, I saw people protesting who said that a child needs both a mother and a father.. I grew up as an only child to a single parent and I have been fantastic for it, I could not imagine it any other way so all these arguments based on what a child needs I think are void, a child needs love and support it doesn’t matter what the source is.